It’s that time again when excitement builds for the festive holiday season, and when sharing and giving on the big day becomes so important to us. Unfortunately the “big day” can bring up so many issues, such as stress from having to deal with family members, running into debt, and then having to eat sprouts. Why do I mention sprouts? Because it represents so many things during Christmas that push our “emotional buttons” that make us feel that we HAVE to behave a certain way or do certain things.
Along with the festivities you may have many raging emotions about feeling obliged to do things you don’t want to do, but have to do. You may already be cringing at the thought of having to see someone you don’t get along with, or having to buy presents as it has become expected from you. At the same time this means you are paying off another debt or adding onto your debt. Yes, the list goes on and on.
I’m not trying to pull a bah-humbug on you here, because this is an amazing time to celebrate and enjoy. But my question is; why do we have such high emotional states during this time? Is it because we behave in a way that is expected from us? Is it because we secretly don’t want to show up on Christmas day from fear of what others will think of us if we don’t buy presents, or visit so and so, or eat sprouts for that matter (it’s the simple things in life that portray the big things isn’t it?)?
My heritage is of an Asian Indian background, and I know of all this too well. Not because of Christmas, but because it’s like this all year round. It’s always about what others think of you and what others expected of you. Being very family orientated I can still hear how my beautiful mom would always say, “No, you have to go visit so and so because it doesn’t look good if you don’t”. So yes, I can relate to Christmas time and all the “shoulds…”.
I have at times had to “look internally” at these thought patterns and have concluded that there are so many trapped emotions around these issues that we have accumulated in our lives, which can trigger us to continue to behave this way. But also, and more importantly, is the presence of the Heartwall. Why you ask? Well, if we have a Heartwall we continue to interact with the world we live in through these “filters” (trapped emotions around the heart that form the Heartwall), and Christmas seems to be the time we get triggered the most.
So removing the Heartwall and trapped emotions around these events can be very beneficial. It allows us to come from our “authentic” heart (without the filters of emotions), and we can then express ourselves authentically. All our behaviour then comes from this “authentic” place, which can only be good. We are then able to stand in our own truth, and if again I may use my simple example, we don’t have to eat the sprouts if we don’t want to.
When you don’t have these filters of emotions through which you perceive and receive from your environment, you are able to stand for what feels true to you. When we are able to do this others feel this truth within you.
I like what Neale Donald Walsh said about relationships. I’m paraphrasing here, but it was along the lines that if there was a white wall, and there was a black dot on the wall, then the wall would know it was white in reference to the dot and vice versa. It is the same in relationships, which is where we get to really “see” ourselves, and it is such a gift. Once we can see and feel our triggers we know that there is something to clear within us.
Christmas is a time to rejoice and have fun. If you get “sprouts” remember that you can clear your trapped emotions and your Heartwall to become more authentic in all your interactions. Not only that, but every interaction is a gift. If you feel like “eeek…I can’t do this, or I don’t want to be here!” just remember this is you being aware of energy shifts and is a “gift” that you are being provided with to help “see” within yourself on a deeper level. Use these opportunities to release these “emotional buttons”. And now if you don’t want to eat those sprouts, you don’t have to… ;-). Enjoy your gifts.
Thank you for allowing me to share with you.
-article written by Charan Surdhar